How to Involve Your Friends and Family During Your Elopement

Sometimes that's the dealbreaker of the question "to elope, or not to elope?" There are definitely ways to share your joy without feeling like you're leaving everyone behind! Here are some creative ideas to involve friends and family in your elopement:

Your family and friends can enjoy your elopement without being physically present.

Updated March 18, 2024

1. Pre-Elopement Announcement:

5. Include Keepsakes:

Though some people prefer to come home with a "surprise", that's not how every couple wishes to share the news with their friends and family. Telling them ahead of time can give them the opportunity to share in your excitement and offer their blessings. There are several ways to do this, my favourite way is with a personal card with a photo from your engagement!

2. Virtual Ceremony:

If your friends and family cannot physically attend the elopement, consider hosting a virtual ceremony. Set up a live stream or video call so they can witness the event in real-time. This way, they can still feel like they are a part of your special day, even from afar. 

If you're eloping anywhere abroad and want to find a cheaper data plan than roaming, try downloading an e-Sim. There are companies like Airalo and RedTeaGo that offer data-only plans that can help you host those video calls!

3. Bring everyone along for a vacation:

Go on vacation with as many people as you'd like to invite! Then spend one full day to yourselves, eloping somewhere meaningful to you. That way, you get the best of both worlds. You can even hire your photographer for multiple days to get photos with all your friends and family, and perhaps some honeymoon pictures in a different outfit.

4. Post-Elopement Celebration:

Plan a post-elopement celebration or reception where you can gather with your friends and family to share your joy and tell stories from your elopement. You can have a small reception in your backyard (or that of a friend or relatives), or perhaps make a dinner reservation somewhere special. Picnic in the park or at the beach? Why not.

"Something borrowed" could really come in handy here. Incorporate meaningful keepsakes or mementos from your friends and family into your elopement. This could include wearing a piece of jewelry that has been passed down through generations, carrying a special bouquet, or using a meaningful item as part of your ceremony.

You don't have to feel like you're leaving anyone behind. Let your elopement day be as intimate as you want and see all the other great ways you can incorporate your loved ones. Remember that every family and situation is unique, so tailor these ideas to fit your relationship dynamics and the preferences of your friends and family members. Communication and understanding are key to ensuring that everyone feels involved and valued in your elopement plans.

6. Engage Them in Planning: 

Involve your friends and family in the planning process by asking for their input on certain aspects of the elopement, such as choosing a location, selecting your outfits, or deciding on the vows. This way, they can feel connected to the event even if they aren't physically present.

7. Share Photos and Videos:

After the elopement, share photos and videos with your friends and family. This will allow them to experience the moments they missed and feel like they were a part of your special day. Your photographer will provide you with an online gallery that you can send to everyone.

8. Personalized Thank You Notes:

After the elopement, send personalized thank you notes to your friends and family to express your gratitude for their support and love. Include a small memento from the elopement, such as a pressed flower from your bouquet or a photo, to make it even more special.

10. Incorporate Cultural or Religious Traditions:

If you have cultural or religious traditions that are important to you and your family, consider incorporating them into your elopement ceremony. This can help bridge the gap between your private elopement and your family's values.

9. Ask for Personalized Notes:

Ask your friends and family to write you a personlized note that you can read on your elopement day. They can write what they would have said during a speech if you were to have a traditional wedding, and put it in an envelope that is decorated with something meaningful to the two of you.

As a wedding & elopement photographer, I am very happy to share my years of expertise with you and give you more tips and tricks to help you make your perfect wedding come true.

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